S2:E45 | The Blessing Of Negative Emotions – Lessons From Abraham Hicks
MMMS 45 | Negative Emotions


Did you know when we let our beliefs get in the way of something that could teach us something, we’re just pinching off what’s available to us in terms of wisdom and knowledge? I’m sure that so much of what I will share with you in today’s podcast will resonate with you somehow.

A few weeks ago, I saw Esther and Abraham Hicks in Stanford, Connecticut. As you may already know, I am a huge fan of Abraham Hicks and the law of attraction. In today’s podcast episode, I want to talk to you about feeling out of alignment, feeling negative emotions, and why that can be a blessing.

We will look at the following:

  • Why your only job is to show up as yourself!
  • The only relationship that matters is between you and yourself and what feels good
  • How do you reinforce what you want when you see what you don’t want
  • The stories you keep telling yourself

Over the next couple of weeks, I will dig into different topics and some really fun lessons from Abraham Hicks! I hope you will join me!


Whenever you’re feeling a negative emotion, you’re out of alignment with what your inner source knows to be true, and those can be great teaching moments for you.


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The Blessing Of Negative Emotions – Lessons From Abraham Hicks

I’m so excited to dig into a several-part series on the Law of Attraction. I had the pleasure of going to see Esther and Abraham in Stamford, Connecticut, which is about 45 minutes out of New York City where I am. If you don’t know who that is, Esther Hicks is the conduit of the Law of Attraction lessons from a group of souls called Abraham. You may hear that and do a big eye roll. It may not be congruent with your current belief set. It doesn’t matter because what I’m going to tell you is true.

When we let our set of beliefs get in the way of something that could teach us something, we’re pinching off what’s available to us in terms of wisdom and knowledge. I’m excited to be here to help you with whatever you’re dealing with. I am sure that so much of what I’m going to say is going to resonate with you somehow. I would invite you also to share these with someone you love because there are a lot of people walking around in their personal pain and in stories that they have decided to stick with when we could let things go and live the life of our dreams. That’s what I want for all of us.

The name of the show is called the Magnetic Marketing and Mindset show because if you want to build a business, so many of the people on here are entrepreneurs, and you want to attract like a magnet the people, the opportunities, and the experiences that you desire, the biggest barrier to that is the stories that you’re telling yourself. It is your mindset. I believe fully in the Law of Attraction. I’ve seen it in action. It always blows my mind when it happens.

What I do know is the more I work on my mindset and my relationship with my soul and the voices inside me, and being congruent and in lockstep with that instead of everything else that’s noise out here, the happier I am, the more joyful my life is, and the more abundance that comes in. I’m going to dig into a couple of different topics. It will be fun. It’s lessons from Abraham. I want to talk to you about when you feel out of alignment, when you’re feeling jealous, when you’re feeling frustrated, and when you’re pissed off, what are those lessons, why it’s so good to have them, and what to do about them.

I’m going to start here by saying the only time you ever don’t feel good or every time you have a negative emotion, it is that you are out of alignment with your inner source. Tap into what your soul or your inner source knows to be true. Something is off with you and your inner soul because if it wasn’t, you would feel great. When you get focused on something that is not in alignment, it’s not going to feel good. What I have found is oftentimes or almost always, that feeling is a teaching moment for you.

I’m going to give you a couple of examples. There are some people that I see on social media who are entrepreneurs. I find them to be very negative and politically motivated. There’s a part of me that can’t believe that they are running their businesses in a way that is this negative because it goes against everything I believe about how we should show up in the world. I shouldn’t. My belief system of how we should show up is being a light for others to follow. I feel so strongly about that. When I see someone that is in direct opposition to that, it can fire me up in a way that can get me distracted.

What are the lessons there? One is my only job is to show up as my best self. I’m not supposed to be in charge of other people’s experiences on this planet. The way that I serve others is by showing up as my best self. When I see that, it’s a reminder to me to be me more, be me louder, and shine a brighter light. It’s a great reminder to say, “Remind me to stay in my purpose and passion.” It’s great. It’s like guardrails.

The other thing is to remember that the only relationship that matters is between me and myself and what feels good. If I’m letting myself get distracted by things that don’t feel good, that’s not a good use of my energy. It’s draining me. It’s a good reminder to get myself back to where I want to be. When you see what you don’t want, it reinforces what you do want. When you see people acting in a way that’s not how you would behave, it’s a reminder to be more of who you are. There’s no judgment on anybody that’s doing anything the way they’re doing it.

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Negative Emotions: When you see what you don’t want, it reinforces what you do want.


If you’ve been following this show, you know how I feel. What you put out is what you get back. It’s a reminder to me to be me more. As soon as I remember that, I feel better. Feeling better is the way to get everything you want. It’s like guardrails. If you’re feeling frustrated, it’s telling you you’re not where you’re supposed to be. That’s not where your energy is supposed to be or else, it would feel great. If it was right, it would feel great.

The other thing is a reminder. This is a quote that Abraham says all the time, “Would you rather be right than happy?” We all have beliefs that we feel very strongly about. We have our core beliefs. We can fight against something to be right and make ourselves miserable in the process or we can be happy. That puts us back in alignment with where we want our energy to go.

That’s number one. The guardrails help you get back into your place with purpose. I want to talk to you a little bit about purpose. There’s going to be another episode on purpose. Purpose is staying in a space of what feels good. That is your purpose. You don’t have to have a grand purpose to change the world. Your purpose is to stay in a place where you feel like you’re serving your most authentic self. That’s your purpose. The rest will come.

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Negative Emotions: You don’t have to have a grand purpose of changing the world. Your purpose is to stay where you feel like you’re serving from your most authentic self.


The other thing is the idea of Rockets of Desire. If anyone has followed Abraham, you know what the Rockets of Desire are. There are several steps to asking and receiving from the universe. The first is seeing something you want and asking for it. It almost always comes from a feeling of contrast or conflict. Everything works out for us. As you look back on your life, I’m sure you can count times as I can. I’ll give you an example. If you feel super frustrated, that pain point is what launches the thing that is next for you. We are always expanding. If you feel frustrated and stuck, you want to move faster, and it’s so frustrating, that is important because it sets you up for the next phase of growth.

I’ll give you an example. I was with a traditional network marketing company before I was with my eCommerce business and wellness business. I was frustrated. My business wasn’t growing. My team wasn’t growing. I was bored. I wasn’t growing. Having fun to me is growth. Growth is fun even if it’s messy, and I have no idea what I’m doing. I love having a blast and learning. Learning is expansion. I wasn’t learning at all. I was like, “I’ll leave it because I’ve got all of this other work that I’m doing.” I was personal training. I was teaching classes here in New York City.

The pandemic happened. Everything shut down in New York City. All I had was this business that was bringing me zero joy. I sat with it. I read a book at that point by Gabby Bernstein, Super Attractor. I was trying all these different things and hitting a bunch of dead ends. The dead ends are important. Sometimes you’ve got to try a bunch of paths to get to where you’re supposed to be going.

I can remember it. It was a Thursday. I thought to myself, “Maybe I’ll take a look at other opportunities. I don’t know what else could be out there for me because I had been so busy with raising my kids and doing my classes.” I needed things to get quiet and get frustrated. That was a Thursday. On Monday morning, I found out about the opportunity I’m in now. Somebody called me and told me about it. I remember looking up at the sky and thinking, “Universe, you are amazing.”

I had such clarity at that moment. It was a direct download to me or a feeling that this was what I had asked for. That was years ago. It has been a wild ride. It’s so great. It has led me into many areas of growth where I’ve been able to teach people about marketing in a way that gives me a lot of joy. It has helped me solidify my magnetic mindset. Sometimes your frustration is exactly what you need. Think about a little slingshot to fling that desire up to the universe.

Sometimes your frustration is what you need. Think about it like a little slingshot that will fling that desire up to the universe. Click To Tweet

The last thing I want to tell you is the last source of frustration that you may be feeling are stories that you’re telling yourself. We all do it. It’s very hard to live on this planet and at this moment in time and not compare yourself, feel like you’ve got to be in competition with other people, and feel like you’re not enough. There is a world of not-enoughness, a feeling of scarcity, and a spotlight on all that’s wrong. Everyone is trying to be famous. It can put you in such a space of scarcity.

When you find yourself telling yourself those stories, and it feels like shit, that means that your source or you at your soul level knows that’s not true. Your job is to start to work on the stories you’re telling yourself. This is the work. It’s figuring out what self-limiting stories you are holding onto and carrying around like a badge of honor. How long are you going to hold on to those? When are you going to drop them and let good things come in? That is what gets in our way.

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Negative Emotions: Your job is to start to work on the stories you’re telling yourself; this is the work of figuring out what self-limiting stories you hold onto and carry around.


When you have a desire and then all of these stories come in, that is what makes you feel bad, not the desire. It’s the stories. Those are just a bunch of stories. A belief is simply a story you’ve been telling yourself for long enough. If you keep telling yourself a story for long enough, it becomes your belief. Your belief is what dictates your actions. Your actions dictate your outcomes.

Your belief is what dictates your actions and your actions dictate your outcomes. Click To Tweet

If you’ve got some self-limiting beliefs, you’re not going to out-chase your self-limiting beliefs. They are just a bunch of stories. This is where the work is. This is why meditation is so important. This is why listening to personal growth is the stuff that resonates with you, not this stuff where you’ve got to get up, hustle every day, and never miss a Monday. It’s the hustle toxic culture. It’s slowing down and listening to that voice inside you because when it feels good, you’re going to go fast.

I took off this business I took up years ago. It was in the middle of the pandemic. There were no products. It was a nightmare, and it was the most fun I’ve ever had in business. It was such chaos. We embrace the chaos. We laughed, learned, had a lot of grace for ourselves, and went. I grew in ways I could not even imagine. It was so fun. When I stop having fun in my business is when I put expectations on myself. If I stay in a place of having fun, I am in a good space.

Those are the big things. Let me know what resonated with you the most. What negative scenarios are you dealing with? Are you looking at other people and getting frustrated? Are you feeling like you’re stuck? Are you telling yourself stories? What are the things that are resonating with you the most? Next time, we will talk about another topic. I am so excited to do this with you. I could jam all day about this stuff. This is my jam. I love you. Have a great day. I will talk to you more soon.


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