This week we are looking at worthiness in my 3-part series of Lessons from Abraham Hicks. (If you haven’t heard part one “The blessing of negative emotions,” make sure to go back and listen in).
I’ve been working on feeling worthy of the things I have over the past couple of months. I have an amazing life. I have the life I have designed for myself. Yet, I often found myself feeling like I had to prove that I was worthy of all of it.
We admire people that work really hard. We admire people that have a really hard work ethic and if they work harder than the rest of us, somehow they’re better than us.
We should all have our goals. But, if you’re struggling and doing it to prove you’re worth instead of doing it because it lights you up and gets you excited, then you’re doing it the hard way.
This episode covers:
- Why do we feel unworthy?
- Are we in alignment with our desires?
Remember: To get what you want is to know you’re already worth it.
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Hustling For Worthiness – Lessons From Abraham Hicks
We are digging into my lessons from my day with Esther Hicks and Abraham. It was so much fun. I went to a workshop, which I had been dying to do. I am so excited that it landed on my calendar at exactly the right time in my life as it always does. In this episode, I want to talk to you about worthiness and feeling like you’re worthy of either the things you desire or the things that you have.
I’m going to be vulnerable with you. This has been something I’ve been working on over the past couple of months. It is this feeling like I have an amazing life. Let me stop there. I have an amazing life. I have the life I have designed for myself. It’s everything. It’s amazing. There’s more that I desire to do in ways I want to expand, but I am living the life I designed for myself and it is amazing.
I found myself feeling like I had to continue to prove that I was worthy of all that I had. For many years, I felt like I had to prove that I was worthy of what I had. I’ll break it down for you. I grew up in a little small town in Rhode Island. My mom is a single mom. She worked several jobs. We almost never had enough money. I can’t remember a time when we had enough money.
When my grandfather died, he was super Irish and he had socked away cash all over his apartment. We found all this money. We had money to buy clothes for the funeral because my pa had put all his cash in different places. That’s the one time I remember having enough money growing up. The rest of the time, I did not have enough money ever.
I married an amazing man, my husband, for many years. We have built an amazing life for ourselves. I sometimes still have in my mind that I’m that girl with not enough money and that I need to explain to people that I somehow earned this. I don’t know if any of you can relate to this. I also get into the habit where I feel like I’ve got to work hard to prove that I earned things. I feel like this comes from my childhood, and much of it’s our culture. We admire people that work hard. We admire people that have a hard work ethic. It’s like if they work harder than the rest of us, they’re better than us somehow.
I’m not saying we shouldn’t be all-in on our goals. I’m saying if you’re struggling and doing it to prove you are worthy instead of doing it because it lights you up and gets you excited, you’re doing it the hard way. The hard way is saying, “I’m going to prove everyone wrong. I’m going to prove to everyone that I’m worth it.” The other way to do it is by saying, “This is stuff I desire. I am going to go have fun and make it happen for myself.” Do you feel the difference? That’s the big thing to start with about worthiness. I’m a little all over the place with this, but I feel like it’s important to share some stuff from the heart.
What I want to talk to you about is when you are feeling not worthy or less than worthy, what is that about, and how can you get yourself out of it? This was fun. During our Esther session, I was talking to a gal who I had met on the way in. She said, “What are you hoping to get out of today?” I said to her, “I hope that Esther and Abraham talk about feeling like you have to prove your worthiness. Do you know what I mean?” She looked me square in the eye and said, “I know exactly what you mean,” and then the next hour was all about worthiness and worth. Thank you, universe. Thank you, Abraham. I appreciate it.
Here’s the first a-ha for me. We have been trained to calibrate against each other. The reason why we often don’t feel worthy is we are comparing ourselves to each other. I talked about contrast in the last episode. Sometimes, when you see something that someone else has, it launches a rocket of desire for something that you want that you’re going to expand into.
The problem is we spend a lot of time comparing ourselves to each other when our only job is to get into alignment with what we desire. That requires getting quiet and listening to ourselves. That’s number one. We’ve been trained to calibrate against each other when our only job is to calibrate ourselves, our inner voice, and our inner source.
The other thing that happens is we desire something and then we tell ourselves a bunch of stories. The reason we’re out of alignment is that we said we wanted something and our beliefs are getting in the way of our desire. When you feel out of alignment, that’s always a lesson. Here’s the question. Are you letting it in or not? When you are questioning your worth, you are pinching off the opportunity because you’re not letting it in.You're out of alignment if your beliefs are getting in the way of your desires. Click To Tweet
The reason you’re not letting it in is there are a bunch of stories that you’ve been telling yourself that is based on our society and how everyone measures success. They are getting in the way of you getting what you want. You are getting in the way of what you want because you’ve told yourself some stories that are limiting beliefs. Those limiting beliefs do not feel good because they’re in between you and what you desire.
How can you let those limiting beliefs go? This is the work to your worth. It is getting in touch with that voice inside you that you know is telling the truth. I’ve got a friend who calls this truth. She’s got a whole method called The Truth Method. Once you start to get rid of these noises inside you, it is a wise soul that knows the truth. The truth is you are already worthy of everything you desire. There’s nothing that you need to do to prove your worth.
Do you need to step into activities that bring you what you want? That’s the whole point of expansion. The whole point of expansion is saying, “I want this,” and then the path appears in front of you and you bravely go forward because you know you’re worth it and it’s coming to you. It’s only the stories that prevent you from feeling your worth.
She talked about how you’ll get to where you want to be when you let go of the stories. When your desire becomes strong enough to overcome the beliefs you’ve been carrying around, that is when you will achieve what you desire. The sooner we can start to let go of these beliefs that we’ve been carrying around, the sooner we will get to what we desire. There’s a great quote by Abraham that says, “It’s all waiting for you. How long is it going to take for you to get out of the way and let it come?”
The stories of proving your worth and worthiness are a bunch of malarkey. You don’t have to. The way to get what you want is to know you’re already worth it and to believe in your worth. There’s no race. There’s no timeline. When you get into alignment, it will come fast without resistance and with ease. Resistance is the stories we tell ourselves. This is hard stuff. You’ll be like, “But.” There are no buts. I’m not saying it is easy work. I’m saying it is the work. It’s the work to get tuned in to your inner source. Put the blinders on what other people are and are not doing if that’s not serving you.The way to get what you want is to know you're already worth it. Click To Tweet
I think about this and I’m sure you’ve got experiences like this. I went to a friend’s house when my kids were little. They were in nursery school. Tess, who is sixteen, was in a crib. We bought the Pack ‘n Play. That’s how little the kids were. I went to my friend’s house out in Long Island. She had this amazing house on the water. I remember thinking, “I want something like this.” I felt it so deep in my soul. I was like, “I want something like this.”
It was probably 7 or 8 years later that we found a place in Rhode Island that was our version of that place. When we found it, I knew this was the place. We were ready to get it. Over the years, that place has been such an amazing place for our family to grow and connect. I get to bring people there. I’m hosting a retreat for my team. It has been one of the greatest joys of my life.
I felt maybe a little envious of her, but I remember I launched that rocket of desire and it came in different forms. We rented some places. We looked around in the Hamptons and decided we didn’t like the Hamptons. We decided we wanted to be near our family in Rhode Island. We rented in Rhode Island. We were looking for a place. The woman that was selling this place had taken it off the market, but she agreed to let us see it. We then put in an offer for all that we could afford. We were like, “This is what we have. This is what we can afford. Here’s our best offer.”
She said she’d like to meet us. My husband and my son, who was 6 or 7 at the time, went up to meet her. When they got there, there were some seals out on the pond. Brody was in love with sea lions at the time. He was obsessed with sea lions. He sat at the bench and looked out the window with his eyes lit up like a little Christmas tree. The owner said, “It’s yours.” I’m going to get emotional thinking about it. We were the right people at the right time. She wanted to give that house to someone who would raise their family there and have an amazing experience.
Trust that it is all there for you. You don’t have to prove anything. The faster you believe that your job on this planet is to have fun, expand, and see what your potential is, the faster it’s going to come to you. You’re already worth it. You’re worthy because you’re here. If you need a reminder, reach out to me anytime you want on social media, and I will tell you that over and over again. That is lesson number two with unworthiness. I hope this was as therapeutic and beneficial to you as it was for me. I love sharing this stuff with you. I’ll be back with one more lesson from Abraham soon. I’ll see you then. Have a great day.
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